Exercise is a state of mind

Sit back and let me tell you a tale about one of the stupidest things I’ve ever done in my life.

Many moons ago, I was married to an extremely smart professor who lifted weights six days a week and rested on the Sabbath. I never felt the need to work out (weight lift), but he encouraged me to at least work out 2 days a week with him. One day for the upper body, and the second for the lower body. I didn’t feel my body was that out of shape, but I did give birth to two kids. Ladies, you can certainly relate to how our body changes to accommodate giving birth. But I digress, so back on to the story.

After a few months of working out with the smart professor, my body got firm in areas I wasn’t previously firm. I liked the look, the feel, and boy did it do wonders for my self-esteem. I could wear a mini skirt again! Back then, that was HOT!

One thing I didn’t like was being forced to work out. I had to do sit-ups before bed and in the morning. He’d comment on what I ate if he felt it wasn’t what I should be eating. You probably guessed by now, that he was a control freak. I don’t like the word freak, but it conveys what I need to get across in this tale.

We ended up getting a divorce for lots of reasons. I wished him well and left with two kids in tow. I was grateful for the tight thighs and feeling great about my body, which I owed all that to him and his control. BUT in my rebellion of not wanting to be controlled, I STOPPED working out from that point on! That was the stupidest thing I’ve ever done. So so wrong…

Fast forward fifteen years, here I am mid-fifties struggling to lose because it’s even harder at my age now! I get up at 5:45 am to get my butt to the gym and work out at least 3 times a week. BUT I LOVE to work out now. I FEEL so much better and have more energy than when I don’t work out. I notice a high feeling on the days I do work on my body. The only difference is – No one is forcing me now. I simply do it for myself and my own health.

I’m glad this tale has a happy ending, but I sure wish I could go back in time and change that stupid moment in time! (LOL) Life is a journey… ups and downs… good and bad.

Exercise is really a state of mind! It’s all in how you look at it.

Love and blessings – and here’s to our health.

Deanna

My Furry Companion and Loss

I know I’m not the only one who has lost a very loved family pet/companion and feeling my heart break into a million pieces.

Penny, was 13 years old, a tan mini dachshund who was my constant companion and she was so loving to everyone. She was pure joy everyday!

It broke my heart to put her down on Friday!! I feel lost without her. I know everyone says, “She’s in a better place.” But maybe I’m self-fish, but I didn’t want to let her go. I know it was the humane thing to do. I didn’t want her to suffer.

I loved her so much. I talked to her constantly and she went everywhere as she loved to go in the car. She was a wonderful blessing for 13 years.

I love you Penny. I miss you soooo much.

LOVE ALWAYS

Instant World

We live in a different world now from when I was a kid. I’m guessing maybe 90% of people have a smartphone, and that might be a low guess. I don’t know. But what I do know, is we live in an instant gratification society. It’s a whole new world now.

Console T.V back in the day!

I can remember having a big console T.V. that sat in the corner of our living room and my brother and I were the channel changers. Yes, there was a knob that had 13 positions (if I remember right). When mom or dad wanted to change the channel based on what the T.V. Guide showed hourly scheduled programming, we were told what number to change the channel too. There was no remote! No speaking to the T.V. to open up NBC or open up a streaming app etc. It’s a whole new world! And I’m grateful in many ways for that!

Let’s think about the world of weight loss. I will admit I want to lose weight instantly! Don’t you? Is there a pill for that? Is there a way to cut off the extra fat? NO – I put it on the normal way – eating the bad food, too much food, second helpings of mashed potatoes, and not the veggies, and so on and so on? It all added up! I did this naturally over time. I need to give myself permission to take it off over time!

I recently watched a short video from a health expert and she said basically this… “We can change our eating habits, eat healthy every day and the scale may not reflect any weight loss. We have to remember that changes are happening inside our body that we can’t see but we may feel better, sleep better, and have more energy. Those are benefits to our eating healthy, but it’s simply not reflected YET on the scale.” Isn’t that GREAT to remember!?

I remind myself constantly to continue the race to my goal even if the scale is slow! Keep the faith. Keep the race going. NEVER give up even when a bad day happens. Get back in the race… You are doing this for yourself and your health.

I’m cheering you on! I’m cheering myself on!

Here’s to our good health. Like and follow me

Love-

Deanna

Eating all day long

In the seventies, we were told to eat three meals a day. Then we were told to eat small meals all day long. – grazing. Today most people eat three meals a day and snack all day. Now 2/3 of women are overweight and obese. Let’s think about this logically for a minute – Do you think our bodies were made to eat all day? Did our great ancestors eat all day long? Heck no! They had to hunt for food and had long periods of time when they didn’t eat. If we eat all day, we are over taxing our organs to try and keep up. They must be constantly working over time to do their job. That can’t be good. Right? I know when I work overtime for a long period of time, I wear out. Why wouldn’t our organs respond in the same way?!

I’ve heard so much about intermittent fasting I wanted to give it a try. I think marketing experts and ad campaigns led us to thinking breakfast was the most important meal of the day. But I’m guessing that was probably a bunch of b.s. When I started intermittent fasting, all I could think about was food. It consumed my thoughts. I felt time was moving slower than normal!! The first day, I lasted until 11am, but I wanted to wait until noon. Now I start to think about food at 11:30am – LOL. It really is a new way of thinking, but it’s worth it. I feel better by not eating so much, and keeping my eating window smaller. I try to only eat from noon – 6pm. Plus, chosing better food to eat.

It’s all baby steps to good health. Try it if you haven’t. See how you feel. 🙂

Here’s to good health!

Love and grace,

Deanna

Stick to 1 Day

I have always been obsessed with my weight. I was a chunky child, lean in H.S. due to exercise and swimming, and back to body difficulty after having two babies. I still have a need to get on the scale to see my weight every day, but I’ve learned to pick 1 day – and stick to getting on the scale 1 day every week.

I grew up in a military family. My dad was a Marine for 30 years, so we had rules and routines that as a family we stuck to. I made my bed every morning after I got up. Saturday was cleaning day. My older brother and I knew every Saturday without fail was cleaning day. We had chores to do before we could even go outside and play with friends. There were no exceptions even when we spent the night with a friend, those chores would have to be done when I got home. My parents picked a day and we stuck to it. Mom did laundry, we stripped the sheets off our bed, I did all the dusting, and my brother vacuumed. Mom folded our clean clothes, place them on our bed, and we put them away. We knew the rules. You’ll laugh, but I still clean every Saturday and still make my bed every morning – without fail. 🙂

I believe the same should be for weighing your body. Pick 1 day, same time, weigh naked, and stick to it. I don’t feel weighing every day is healthy for your mind. As we all know, weight can fluctuate based on so many factors. Plus, let’s face it, we all want that number to go down every day when we are trying to lose weight, and it may be disheartening when it goes up. We don’t want to feel defeated or lose our focus when we weigh – right? Heck no! Pick 1 day – weigh and keep going doing better every week.

Here’s to better health –

Grace and love,

Deanna

Not all things are Equal

Science tells us for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. I think we all can agree not all things are equal. I live in a career based on consistency and math so everything has to balance. This got me thinking about exercise… and falling off the wagon.

Toasting the Happy Couple

My handsome and smart son got married this past weekend. His new bride is beautiful, intelligent, and the best part is; she loves my son with all her heart. (A mom can tell) I am thrilled to watch them start their new life together. The wedding was outside beside the largest natural lake in Indiana so you can imagine the backdrop of the wedding was scenic. When the kids began to share their written vows, (kids being 30 years old, so technically not kids anymore) we all sat silently with anticipation of their heartfelt vows to one another. Being the mom of the groom, I had a front-row seat and got my phone out to record this moment in time. My son started his vows, well thought out and meticulously written down so he wouldn’t forget what he wanted to share with her. During this moment, I kid you not, a Jet-Ski whizzes by the wedding venue loud and proud drowning out his vows for a moment. Like any good husband-to-be, he didn’t wavier! They both shared loving vows to one another. However – A Lakeside Wedding Venue does not equal jet ski fun under the sun!

The dinner and celebration continued under a huge tent on the side of the resort/hotel. The guests started out with flutes of champagne and strawberries. My arm was graciously twisted to join in with several flutes as all the guests toasted the happy couple. The meal was superb and so was the desert. Now here’s where every action has an equal and opposite reaction…. Alcohol, heavy food, and sugar will have an opposite reaction to my healthier lifestyle change.

While I loved being in the moment celebrating with everyone, I also felt horrible the next day. All I wanted to do was be lethargic and sleep. I am sure part of that was also due to a very long day from sun up to late in the evening. It took me a few days to feel normal again. Falling off the wagon sets you back. What little weight I’d lost, now back on. I felt sluggish and weighed down. Now I feel I’m starting all over again and my progress was for nothing.

There’s a famous quote I love – “Our jobs don’t define who we are. What defines us, is how well we rise after falling.” ~ Maid in Manhattan, The movie.

Doesn’t that quote say it all?!? I get back up, dust myself off, and do a better job going forward! I do NOT give up! Giving up is not an option! I get back on the proverbial wagon and continue towards my goal.

Here’s to better health!

Love and Happiness-

Deanna

What Happened to my Great Body?

Where did my college body go? What happened to my strong resolve to say “no” when offered a piece of cake? After having two babies, menopause, and postmenopause, fast forward to middle age. My body, while remarkable as God made it, has changed dramatically since my twenties. I’ve made a lot of bad food choices on top of experiencing major life events. The question now is – How do I get my body back? Can I do this at my age? Will my body resist or appreciate the effort to change back to healthy?

My body is different, so a new game plan needs to be figured out. I do think the old “no” to cake or sugar is the first start. Saying no to sugar is always a good plan. This will be week one of my journey. I’m active in walking and moving every hour but I will shoot to add some simple weight lifting twice a week for the upper body and lower body.

I want this to be easy and simple. Week 1 – Say no to sugar. Weight lift – easy sets 2 times this week. Move my body more. Drink MORE water.

I will report next week on my progress. Small repetitive steps are key! Just like doing accounting – it’s about being consistent.

Have a GREAT WEEK….

Here’s to BETTER HEALTH.

Deanna

Feeling Connected

One thing the pandemic did for me was made me further disconnect from life, and others, and made the isolation difficult. I am single so I didn’t have anyone to hunker down with except for my beloved pets during that time.

I am definitely a people person, but I slowly became okay with being quiet, being at home, and pulling away from everyone.

I didn’t get depressed nor had thoughts of suicide, I simply became custom to the isolation.

Fast forward to now, I’m back to being fully connected. I feel so much happier now. I have a fabulous job with incredible co-workers. I feel blessed to go to work every day where we all are working together for the same goal. Everyone helps everyone and there isn’t anyone who feels they are superior and it’s beneath them to help on that level. This feels more like a family. I wouldn’t know how blessed I am had it not been for the isolation and knowing what it’s like to feel like I was alone on an island.

I count my blessings. I feel connected again to life, happiness, and others.

Deanna

Beautiful Day

What a beautiful spring day! I feel the warmth of the sun coming through the sliding door, making me excited for the new season ahead.

tulips-bed-colorful-color-69776.jpegDo you look forward to the change of seasons? I know I do. For some reason, I feel its a new beginning for Mother Earth, the animals and all the new change about to happen. I feel that change is vital to growth and rebirth. I am constantly finding opportunities or things that give me growth in all areas of my life. I never want to remain stagnate – I feel that would be death for me.

Enjoy the new season upon us! See the growth and beauty in change. May you grow this season, in a big or small way, but grow!

 

Deanna

 

Living Life

Life on our own terms is more difficult than we imagine. We put masks on to various groups of people in our lives so we feel accepted, not judged. It’s a persona we wear so we are accepted, not left out or cast out, we feel a part of the ‘norm’. Acceptance is sometimes more important than being who we really are.

I went to see the movie “Love, Simon” last week. If you haven’t seen it, I’d recommend it. It’s about a teenage boy in high school who is living the “accepted” life but his deep dark secret is he is gay. He hasn’t told anyone for fear of being cast out, his life will be changed when he decides to live his true self. How terrible it would be living his life as what we deem “normal” as a society, but lying every day or burying his true self for his whole life? I can’t image what that would feel like! It makes me sick to even think about it. I’m so happy he didn’t, that this movie had a happy ending. I know it’s not like that for everyone, but finally a movie shows a positive outcome coming of age and being true to one’s self. Bravo!

One of the top regrets of those that are old, dying, and realizing their lives are about over, is they didn’t have the courage to live they life they wanted, but lived the life others wanted for them.

Be brave. Live your life the way you want, the truth of who you are without regret. There will be people who like you and ones that don’t no matter what mask you wear. So why not simply be who you truly are and find those people who like you. I bet you will live a happier life.

Deanna